GROWING TOWARDS MATURITY

GROWING TOWARDS MATURITY

Sometimes we take certain things in life to be a constant. We have some definitions to go by, some strict ages to adhere to. Often we take it for granted that at such and such age a person is labelled as having
achieved a particular level of development. And we put a name to it — Maturity.

Maturity marks the beginning of a person’s physical changes. But in my opinion the physical changes and age of a person does not show how mature they are. I think that how a person think and act shows their maturity.

In order for a person to mature, they need experiences. There are three reasons as to why experiences mark the beginnings of maturity. The reasons are; it exposes an individual to challenges and helps gain from it, helps the individual to learn from past mistakes and have good characteristics, and lastly it attributes to expanding a person’s knowledge and point of view. I often hear people bothering each other about who is more mature or who is less mature or who is not mature at all.

What is maturity ? I mean, when do you believe that he or she is a mature person or there exists an age after which someone is declared matured and certified with the tag ? Is maturity related to someone’s behavior with others or is it how the way you keep your opinion about something or is it dependent on various kinds of rights given by the people around you and how you use or misuse them or is it related to the choices you make in your life or is it dependent on the way you eat ,talk,walk,pray,love,sit &
stand etc etc.

First of all, having experiences helps a person gain and polish their skills and become stronger. Every experience comes with a challenge that a person must overcome in order to become stronger and survive in this vast world. When a person overcomes the challenge it harness it skills from that experience and become more accustomed to challenges and marks the beginning of maturity of the person, step by step, becoming stronger and more skilled and acting more mature in handling the next challenges.

Second of all, an experience helps form an individual’s characteristics of not repeating same mistakes from the past. A person is called immature when they keep on repeating the same mistakes over and over, never learning from it. But a person becomes mature when he or she learns from that
experience and acts accordingly in order to avoid repeating the same mistake in the future.

As an individual have more experience, he or she forms characteristics. A mature person possesses good behavior such as honesty, sense of responsibility, realize what is right and wrong, and can read the situations. Having good characteristic and learning from every experience is how a person becomes mature.

When I googled the definition of maturity I found that its the state, face or period of being mature. It is the quality of behavior mentally and emotionally like an adult. This means when your biological growth transforms from child to an adult it means you are mature. Maturity is never related to the way others expect you to be or want you to do. It absolutely depends on your mental state of judging what will be good or bad for you. It’s the self power empowered within you to handle various things that come in your way and it’s not necessary that in that process you turn out to be perfect or the best.

Your maturity doesn’t teach you various lessons in life but it’s your experience that teaches you and guide you that how you handle something in a better way the next time when you go through the same situation in life. When someone tells you that you are immature,do focus on the fact that you are inexperienced and be happy from inside that one day you will be better in that particular thing when you will be an experience holder. If you are handling something in an effective way , it doesn’t mean that you are more mature , it means you are more experienced and you have always learnt from your experiences and haven’t forgotten those lessons too. Now we can say that our brain is not the only thing responsible for what we do in our lives and how we act but our everyday experiences are highly countable.

I also presume that sometimes we need multiple exposure to same kind of circumstances in life as we are human beings with hearts in us and we tend to take risks despite of a lesson learnt and the outcome of those risks make us more mature for living another levels in life.

Most importantly, an experience helps in widening a person’s point of view and knowledge. Experience is knowledge and is vital in decision making. A person does not only get knowledge from books and school, experience also
helps in widening one’s knowledge. An experience is where we learn about things and information that cannot be obtained from books.

Experience is the best way to expand an individual’s point of view and
knowledge, because the person itself undergo an event where he or she can observe and see what happens. As a person’s becomes more knowledgeable and expands his or her point of view, the person becomes more aware of his or her surrounding, becoming more understanding just like a mature
person.

In life, experience always plays a big part in becoming mature. It is important to have a lot of experiences where one learns and benefit from. Age doesn’t help an individual to develop into a mature person, but experience does. Experience influences our way of thinking and how we should see the world.

It helps us in decision making and teaches us how we should act and what we should do making us more mature. In other words it illustrates how each individual becomes wiser, stronger,understanding, knowledgeable, and develops into a good mature person, becoming what we’re supposed to be. Maturity is not something that happens overnight. Maturity comes through trial and error; it’s a process which has to be perfected. Life throws curveballs and there are always multiple ways to deal with the situations.

Being mature is making the right choices and knowing right from wrong.
When you turn eighteen you are expected to just be mature. You’re allowed to buy a house, a car, get a credit card, it seems like you can do whatever you want. Maturity basically gets thrown at you, so hopefully you are prepared for it.

High school responsibilities, like getting a job, budgeting your time and
learning to drive teach you skills that you can use in your adult life, if you choose to apply them.

Maturity is about choice. You can be given every skill that you need to survive and if you are mature enough you will use them. Undoubtedly, the experience is a prerequisite for learning and mental maturity.

Often in our routine living, we see the grown-ups behaving more maturely as compared to the young ones. Their handling of a situation is far more efficient than that of the younger ones. The only difference between the more mature and less mature is the difference in the experience.

Well, the experience is nothing but the collection of the consequences of mistakes done in one’s life. Man learns the most by trial and error. What we call experience is the act of having committed more number mistakes by virtue of being more aged. The more number of mistakes committed equips you with more data concerning what is wrong and right. That data comes to the rescue while handling further situations. For example, a boy who has already burnt his hand with the candle will handle it more carefully than the baby who has never touched it. So is the case with other situations.

Even in classrooms, however intelligent a teacher might be, his intelligence won’t help the students until the students themselves make efforts and mistakes in learning a concept. Learning comes by doing.

And doing is nothing but an accumulation of knowledge of mistakes. Whether you are learning swimming, or cycling, or driving, a certain amount of experience is a must before you can actually do the activity you
are learning. So learning is possible only through experience.

When John Lennon was asked what he wanted to be when he grew up, he said he wanted to be happy. When one realises that it is ultimately peace of mind that brings happiness, and people who love you are around you, you have matured. Time and tide waits for no man. Sometimes we waste time and later we realise what we have wasted. Such experience teaches us the value of time and when we accept this teaching by being careful in using our seconds, we would have gained maturity.

Mature you are, when you do not find yourself to be insecure whilst adapting to changes. You welcome only such changes that are progressive because you have developed the realisation of what is right and what is wrong.

“Life gives you the chance to learn and that is experience and what you becomes out of it is Maturity”

Mir Mariya Muzaffar
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